Today I requested Dave Matthews tickets from my dad for ‘graduation,’ in December. The concert is actually during finals week, which I think will be the best option for escaping the madness of studying and testing, at least for an evening. When I found out The Lumineers are opening for DMB, I instantly opened Spotify and put their album on repeat. Love them.
The more I listened to the CD–at work with nothing else to do but that and a psychology report–the more I began to recognize the particular songs that felt most familiar. You know, the songs that you hear and you wonder how in the world someone could know you well enough to write a song about you, especially considering they’ve never even met you. That is how I define good music.
She’ll tear a hole in you, the one you can’t repair
But I still love her, I don’t really care
Stubborn Love is one of those songs, for me. Listen to it. Read the lyrics. (Trust me, you’ll want to do that or else everything I am about to say won’t make a whole lot of sense.)
The guy is singing about a girl who seems to get love all wrong, but he loves her anyway. I know that girl, and I’m pretty familiar with that guy. What I know about that girl is this: something happened to her to make her the way she is. I believe that the most basic desire of any human being is to love and to be love, and I just don’t think that anyone pushes that away or runs from it without having been burned by a false, incomplete version of ‘love.’ This guy gets that, and he recognizes that to leave her is to confirm her newfound belief that love just doesn’t exist. He chooses to love her through her pain, and I respect that because I feel like those guys are so hard to find…especially when you think about the fact that there are also guys out there who have been just as burned by ‘love.’ The idea of “stubborn love” is really just committment in a nutshell. Love is about comitting to a person regardless of their past or the long road ahead. After all, we all have scars from all the times we have fallen on this path we have been walking.
Also, stubborn love makes me think about how stubborn I am, and there are people who choose to love me anyway. That’s a blessing I take for granted all too often, and being stubborn makes it even harder to accept the love that people try to give. Anyway, I like this song. I like how it sounds. I like the lyrics. I like that there are deep underlying meanings and themes. I like the psychology of it. I just wanted to share that with you.
It’s better to feel pain than nothing at all
The opposite of love is indifference.
In closing, here’s some other questions I’ve been pondering:
Am I in a ‘stubborn love’ kind of relationship with anyone?
Am I the stubborn one or the loving one?
And what is it that I am indifferent about that I really should be loving more?